Do therapists ask a lot of questions?
Most good therapists avoid questions, most of the time. Questions take over the conversation. “Talk about what I want to hear about, please.” They’re a little too bossy, though once in a while they can be illuminating.
“If she was so amazing and perfect, why did you dump her?” at just the right moment could be powerful if the client is ready for that level of confrontation.
The exception is at the front end of the therapy, where we’re getting to know each other and forming an idea of why you’re here.
Most therapists learn to ask non-demand “questions” that don’t derail the client. Like, “Wow, I’d love to hear more about that when you’re ready.” Or “Really??” Or “Maybe just like your dad.” It takes a bit of skill to express specific interest without interrupting the flow, but therapists tend to get fairly good at it.
There are plenty more stories and insights on how therapy works in Get the Most From Your Therapy, a friendly, practical guide to the experience.
