Do therapists ask a lot of questions?
Most good therapists avoid questions, most of the time. Questions take over the conversation. "Talk about what I want to hear about, please." They’re a little too bossy, most of the time, though once in a while they can be illuminating.
Are couples therapists supposed to be neutral at all times?
In family or couples therapy or group therapy, I’m constantly supporting one or another person in saying what they need to say from one moment to the next, coaching, affirming, questioning, and reframing.
How can you tell if a therapist is not good at therapy?
Reading Quora questions and answers—stories of therapist misbehavior, misconduct, and mediocrity—has been sobering and saddening, and sometimes just makes me mad. Here’s a short list of problems that come up often.
What are some good examples of art therapy?
George had been my neighbor until he went to the care center, where I visited him every week. They had an art therapist named Sally there. She invited me to participate in a class.
What do therapists do with a client who is always the victim?
Brad was a victim. I know because he told me so, often, and with great and passionate sorrow.
How well does CBT work in therapy?
I never did CBT like a class, as if the client were a student, with the lessons and the worksheets, following a manual. That’s psychoeducation, possibly helpful and interesting, but absolutely not psychotherapy. But if you’ve got a good working relationship with a client, based on trust and commitment, CBT-type interventions can be great.
Are therapists supposed to tell clients they deal with emotions wrong?
Therapy is a deep, unique relationship that allows full expression, exploration, and resolution of any and all emotions and a lot more. It’s about an approach tailored specifically to you, the whole you, not some convenient label or diagnosis.
How many appointments does it take to know if a therapist is a good fit?
Unlike dating, therapy is a relationship for a carefully managed, well-boundaried single hour every week or so, with a person who’s trained and who has experience in doing what they’re doing, probably for thousands of hours, without getting into too much trouble.
What is your opinion of a therapist who tells you what to do?
If you’re having a panic attack in front of me, I know what to do to help stop the agony, but you’ll need to follow my instructions and let me help, which is up to you. I will always ask your permission before jumping in.
Are kids too young to understand therapy?
We saw kids four and up, many of them victims of abuse and neglect, long term. Other kids came as part of family therapy, and still other had various issues that concerned their parents or professionals.